Just staring at my locker.
MeBrave: "Dude, I can do this"
MeNotBrave: "But what if she ..."
MeBrave: "So what!? I'm not going to die! I didn't last time! Come on! Cost vs Benefit? Totally worth it!"
Random Student walking by noticing my monologue: "Oh great, midterms got to this one"
MeNotBrave: "I can't, I'll sound stupid, I don't even know what to say!!"
...
(5 minutes later)
MeBrave: "OH MY FREAKIN GOSH! I've done this tons of times before! Get UP! GO in there! GET HER NUMBER!"
MeNotBrave: "FINE! I WILL! I GOT this! I got this! ummm... yea... i got this... "
MeBrave: "Seriously! 5 minutes and I'm still staring at my locker!"
MeNotBrave: "Oh dang, 5 minutes? Time to go, have to meet with the TA right now! Gotta keep the appointment!"
MeBrave: "AH! Again!? Seriously!? Curses, next time I'll get it, next time for sure!"
Fear: be afraid or feel anxious or apprehensive about a possible or probable situation or event
Is fear holding you back? Is it keeping you from reaching your goals? What is it about fear that makes it so crippling? My answers: Yes, Yes, No idea, but can we get rid of it?
Throughout my life I've had to overcome my fears, and honestly, most of the time it turns out to be an awesome experience. From everything like riding my bike, going to school for the first time, talking in front of large audiences, being a leader, going to Russia... it has always turned out great! And those rare times when it doesn't work out, when fear is confirmed, it is never as bad as I made it out to be in my mind. Sure it hurt a little, but heck, it heals - and if it's anything physical then I'll get an awesome scar out of it!
So you would think that since I've overcome fear often, it would be a walk in the park right? Wrong. I guess each area that I fear I must overcome myself. This is where faith comes in. Faith - the opposite of fear. The fear of failure seems to be my biggest one. I'm sure the monologue revealed that. But faith - confidence in God, that he is in control and will stand by me - is what I need. Now don't get me wrong. I have faith. Just not enough.
Now let me clarify here. I have faith that I can do WHATEVER God wants me to. Any assignment, any challenge, any obstacle - it can be done. Perhaps what we (those who fear failure) are lacking is a greater sense of faith. Faith that no matter the failure - in the end it will all work out. (yes, it sounds cliche, but it's true). Faith that if we are living right, all our challenges will be for our good. Faith that we can do anything! Do you believe it? I should. I could. I WILL!
to finish off, I found this talk about fear: http://lds.org/new-era/1985/11/the-futility-of-fear
it states:
President N. Eldon Tanner remarked on one occasion, “One of the evils of the world today is not failure but low aim.” Just as we should not fear to fail, neither should we fear to aim high. There was no question of failure in the mind of Joseph the Prophet when, in the dark days of 1842, he penned the words: “Brethren, shall we not go on in so great a cause? Go forward and not backward. Courage, brethren; and on, on to the victory!” (D&C 128:22).
I say to you courage, young people! These are great times, and there are great things to be accomplished. Develop your talents; do not hide them under a bushel. Prepare prayerfully, increase in faith, and you will never have need to fear.
So, with that being said. Let's rock this. No more fear! No more hesitation! BRING IT ON!
and remember:
"If you've never failed, you've never lived."
“You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.” - Wayne Gretzky
MeBrave: "Dude, I can do this"
MeNotBrave: "But what if she ..."
MeBrave: "So what!? I'm not going to die! I didn't last time! Come on! Cost vs Benefit? Totally worth it!"
Random Student walking by noticing my monologue: "Oh great, midterms got to this one"
MeNotBrave: "I can't, I'll sound stupid, I don't even know what to say!!"
...
(5 minutes later)
MeBrave: "OH MY FREAKIN GOSH! I've done this tons of times before! Get UP! GO in there! GET HER NUMBER!"
MeNotBrave: "FINE! I WILL! I GOT this! I got this! ummm... yea... i got this... "
MeBrave: "Seriously! 5 minutes and I'm still staring at my locker!"
MeNotBrave: "Oh dang, 5 minutes? Time to go, have to meet with the TA right now! Gotta keep the appointment!"
MeBrave: "AH! Again!? Seriously!? Curses, next time I'll get it, next time for sure!"
Fear: be afraid or feel anxious or apprehensive about a possible or probable situation or event
Is fear holding you back? Is it keeping you from reaching your goals? What is it about fear that makes it so crippling? My answers: Yes, Yes, No idea, but can we get rid of it?
Throughout my life I've had to overcome my fears, and honestly, most of the time it turns out to be an awesome experience. From everything like riding my bike, going to school for the first time, talking in front of large audiences, being a leader, going to Russia... it has always turned out great! And those rare times when it doesn't work out, when fear is confirmed, it is never as bad as I made it out to be in my mind. Sure it hurt a little, but heck, it heals - and if it's anything physical then I'll get an awesome scar out of it!
So you would think that since I've overcome fear often, it would be a walk in the park right? Wrong. I guess each area that I fear I must overcome myself. This is where faith comes in. Faith - the opposite of fear. The fear of failure seems to be my biggest one. I'm sure the monologue revealed that. But faith - confidence in God, that he is in control and will stand by me - is what I need. Now don't get me wrong. I have faith. Just not enough.
Now let me clarify here. I have faith that I can do WHATEVER God wants me to. Any assignment, any challenge, any obstacle - it can be done. Perhaps what we (those who fear failure) are lacking is a greater sense of faith. Faith that no matter the failure - in the end it will all work out. (yes, it sounds cliche, but it's true). Faith that if we are living right, all our challenges will be for our good. Faith that we can do anything! Do you believe it? I should. I could. I WILL!
to finish off, I found this talk about fear: http://lds.org/new-era/1985/11/the-futility-of-fear
it states:
President N. Eldon Tanner remarked on one occasion, “One of the evils of the world today is not failure but low aim.” Just as we should not fear to fail, neither should we fear to aim high. There was no question of failure in the mind of Joseph the Prophet when, in the dark days of 1842, he penned the words: “Brethren, shall we not go on in so great a cause? Go forward and not backward. Courage, brethren; and on, on to the victory!” (D&C 128:22).
I say to you courage, young people! These are great times, and there are great things to be accomplished. Develop your talents; do not hide them under a bushel. Prepare prayerfully, increase in faith, and you will never have need to fear.
So, with that being said. Let's rock this. No more fear! No more hesitation! BRING IT ON!
and remember:
"If you've never failed, you've never lived."
“You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.” - Wayne Gretzky
